Dating Metal

[Erik]

I am standing around in a CD store minding my own business when a woman walks in. My jaw drops. She is a gorgeous nymph like creature with long sultry legs; an athletic frame and fiery red hair that makes the sun look unimpressive in its brightness. I then move down her body with my eyes and see a form fitting Manowar shirt and jeans that cup her ass so perfectly that I wish I could die and come back as denim for the chance to be those jeans. As my palms got sweaty and all saliva left my mouth she started walking over to me with a sweet yet sexy smile that made my pulse quicken. She sees the CD in my hand, it's the new Nile CD that I waited till months after it's release to pick up. "Great CD," she said, with a voice that hummed in my ears better than any 1980s power ballad that was about holding a woman crying. Just as I am about to respond something horrible happens...I wake up. It was a god damn dream. Though the dream was echoing my dreams for life as recently I was given the chance to meet a girl I have long had an interest in who could be "the one" or, Olympic weightlifting in a competition with my best friend.

I made this choice after some thinking and it was easier then I thought but, I made it more difficult on myself. I chose the competition. Still, the main thing this whole experience got me thinking about was, do I need a woman who is into metal music?

It's a fair question to ask. I have always said that there are 3 things that EVERY couple must have in common to have a good life together.

1) Religion (same or similar belief structure otherwise it could be messy)
2) Family (same desire to have children or not and keep in touch with varying family members)
3) Money (same or similar spending habits and philosophy on money)

These 3 are pretty general but, for other people there is something more. I love metal, love it. If for some unknown reason it was banned I would go to war with guns blazing to bring it back. Like Joey Demaio says, "I would die for metal." It's a huge part of my life and if I ever bring someone else into my life they will at some point have to deal with my strange and obsessive love for a simple genre of music. That is why I have thought it would be easier to be with a lady that has a love for metal as well. I would think it would open itself to being a great relationship. I would never have to turn down my music because it bothers her, she would actually want to go to concerts with me and we could have in depth discussions that I usually save for metal-r.us. The idea of bonding over a common love would mean she would understand why I love it too. That understanding of metal could also translate to her personality to a degree meaning that she will have confidence, independent thought and possibly desire physical strength, meaning athletics.

Seems ideal, hot and into metal. What could be wrong?

Still, that is a romantic vision on how it would be. There are a lot of other factors that go into a relationship that have shown me a metal chick might NOT be the way. For starters, I go back to my apathy article. I doubt any of them would have any kind of higher education. There are the rarities but, let's be realistic. Many of these girls do drugs, drink far too much and too often and have a general distaste for themselves and others. The next is their type of dress. While I do like a tomboy kind of girl that can "get dirty", I also like to see her wear a dress and heels and blow me away. Rarely is there that kind of happy medium. I have found you get the dirty dirty metalhead girls that weigh more than me or you get the chicks that are the most submissive in the world and love whatever their boyfriend loves. Thinking about the flaws in looking for a metal chick is a distressing practice and really just makes you try to look for a woman rather than a metal woman.

To sum things up, I know there are intelligent metal chicks that are also good looking, they however are a rarity but, in the end maybe our personalities wouldn't match up. I think it's an interesting discussion to say the least. We care about our music and our culture a great deal. Bringing someone else into our world is a hard thing to do. I suppose I must look for a mate that likes me for who I am but, at the same time I like for who they are and do not wish to change them. I am learning how delicate a balance things are, especially in love and metal.

[N00bs]

mmmmmmmmm, Simone.

[Dr. Lindgren]

I can attest to this. It's really a trying thing to do to the point where you just have to temper expectations. I also have to avoid the egotistical types that are really only out for themselves, as I have been burned once before by that type.

[Iced]

Simone is so hot. I'm pissed Epica is going to have a stand in singer on the North American tour with Symphony X.

Though I guess I wouldn't mind if a chick wasn't a full blown metalhead. As long as she doesn't mind going to shows and stuff... and she doesn't like emo... or nu metal... or rap... or country...

[Amok]

I would love a girl that loves the music. Easy. Some other things come first, but the music is a bonus. A really, really, really, really, good bonus. In fact, as long as she's not a hip hopper, alternative head or emo lamer, I'm good to go.

[About2Crash]

Erik, one of my best friends is a hot red headed, athletic, manowar fan. unfortunately, she's two years older than me and 21 year old girls don't let 19 year olds put their fingers in them.

[Erik]

Originally Posted by The Iced Realm

Simone is so hot. I'm pissed Epica is going to have a stand in singer on the North American tour with Symphony X.

I honestly can't stand seeing her live anymore. She knows she is hot and she totally plays with it...that her fan blowing her hair all around is so cheesy. I'd still give her a solid rooting that would make the ground quake.

And @Crash. When I come out there. I will meet this chick with a cautious facade.

[About2Crash]

she will probably make you feel like less of a man. she's fiesty.

[Zee]

I'd love to date a girl into metal. Problem is they are either fat, in a relationship or overly gothy. In all 3 cases, I'd rather just keep it going with girls who think Crank Dat is the best song ever.

[Metalhead6six6]

Originally Posted by About2Crash

she will probably make you feel like less of a man. she's fiesty.

lmao

Nice article, Erik. Too bad I'm not patient enough. Ah well, I'm set for now anyway. (She's cool with the 'whoever's driving picks the music' rule anyway so I don't care since I do the driving)

[Erik]

Originally Posted by Metalhead6six6

lmao

Nice article, Erik. Too bad I'm not patient enough. Ah well, I'm set for now anyway. (She's cool with the 'whoever's driving picks the music' rule anyway so I don't care since I do the driving)

Patient enough? So, you would rather be with a chick that you are just okay with and not one that you really love. Oh kids these days are so funny.

@Crash. I need a chick to try and bring me down. Submissive girls do get tiring.

[Metalhead6six6]

Originally Posted by Erik

Patient enough? So, you would rather be with a chick that you are just okay with and not one that you really love. Oh kids these days are so funny.

@Crash. I need a chick to try and bring me down. Submissive girls do get tiring.

That has nothing to do with it..? I'm not "just ok" with anything. imo there is no one person for everyone. There are thousands of women that I'm sure given time I could love just as much as anyone else.

I think there is no point in wasting your time waiting for the absolute perfect person. Life is short, just go with it (again I don't believe in destiny and fate)

[Erik]

If we don't constantly strive for perfection then what is the point of existance. To just exist? The thought pattern you have is what leads people into marriage that ends in divorce.

[About2Crash]

but the thought pattern you have leads to loneliness and a hollow existence...

[herrieman]

Incredible! I have been wanting to start an article the same way, as I still search for this 'metal chick' (not necessarily in a Manowar shirt ) and wanted to express my trying, my successes, my failures and the aftermath. Using a picture of Simone and/or Floor Janssen of After Forever would have been my choice as well.

[Marsallah]

Originally Posted by Erik

It's a fair question to ask. I have always said that there are 3 things that EVERY couple must have in common to have a good life together.

1) Religion (same or similar belief structure otherwise it could be messy)
2) Family (same desire to have children or not and keep in touch with varying family members)
3) Money (same or similar spending habits and philosophy on money)

I also think that

4) Main hobbies/tastes (music, leisure time activities, etc.)

should be added.

My wife listens to rock (not metal) and I wouldn't be able to live with someone who doesn't appreciate things I love most - music, my CD collection, shows I attend, etc. She isn't perfect (in musical terms), cause although I can play some cool metal for her and she will be positive about most things, she has zero tolerance for extreme metal, esp. if it involves growling (death)/shrieking (black).

Some may say it's preposterous, but having to be alone while listening to my Gorefest/Darkthrone/Death CD collection is tough at times. Not to mention I have to watch what's spinning in my car stereo while she's with me. Good, but not perfect.

Oh, and one more remark. IMO it's best if the girl loves metal and is open to everything it brings about, but does not necessarily dress/wear make up 'metal style'. I don't like typical metal chicks wearing leather, spikes and old jeans + heavy make up.

[herrieman]

just lose the make-up

[Marsallah]

Sprinkly way?

[herrieman]

Yep. *very big grin*

[enraged]

Originally Posted by Erik

I then move down her body with my eyes and see a form fitting Manowar shirt and jeans that cup her ass so perfectly that I wish I could die and come back as denim for the chance to be those jeans.

This is where I understood that it was not real. Because I can't recall having heard the high pitched manowar scream that Erik involuntarily would let out if this would ever happen.